Spiritual Love is pure and untouched. It is in our own heart and always present.
The source of love is never outside of us but has to be revealed from within.
True love is the art of accepting everything and everyone exactly as they are. This is because when we free, the people we look upon from the deadening mental judgments (“he is like this”, “she should do that”), we see them as they really are, as if for the first time.
Love is the ability to meet someone (or something) in the present moment in full acceptance, respect, and gratitude.
When we “meet in the present moment,” our vision is not tainted by the past or clouded by the future. Rather we see what is before us, right now.
“Full acceptance” means that the person, as they are, is what we love: not our expectations, or hopes for change. To be fully seen and accepted is truly to feel loved. To fully accept is an act of love.
Spiritual love has no expectations and makes no demands.
Consciousness always tries to imitate spiritual love and substitutes it with human love
Self Love
Loving ourselves is a simple concept but not as easy achievement by most people. Unfortunately, many of us will not love ourselves until we lose the weight, or get the job, or get the raise, or the boyfriend, or whatever. We often put conditions on our love.
So many of us hide from ourselves and don’t even know who we are. We don’t know what we feel, we don’t know what we want.
Life is a journey of self-discovery. By going within, being aware of who we really are, our thoughts, our beliefs, accepting ourselves, and to know that we have the ability to take care of ourselves by loving us as a whole.
Love is a deep appreciation. When we talk about loving ourselves, we mean having a deep appreciation for who we are. We accept all the different parts of ourselves—our little peculiarities, the embarrassments, the things we may not do so well, and all the wonderful qualities, too.
Self-love is not an act of selfishness but rather an act of kindness towards ourselves and cultivating a sense of joy no matter the circumstances. It also has nothing to do if we wear modern, chic clothes, put on expensive make-up or by us a new car.
Self-love has a lot do with self-care and self-compassion, these are both acts we perform towards ourselves physically and non-physically. The way we feed and treat our body and the way we talked to ourselves.
But don’t forget that you do not need to love yourself to deserve to be seen and understood. You deserve to be loved by others even- and – especially when you are not unable to love yourself.
What loving yourself can look like:
- Not allowing someone to disturb the inner peace you have created for yourself.
- Forgiving yourself for making mistakes.
- Embracing your flaws with loving kindness
- Following what your gut / intuition says instead of living out of your brain and ego.
- Doing something that you enjoy.
- Observing your thoughts without judgement.
- Setting and remaining healthy boundaries.
- Saying ‘NO’ to others and ‘YES’ to yourself.
- Taking time to rest, play, create and just be.
- Keeping (small) promises to yourself.
- Recognizing that you, like everyone else. Deserve to take up space on this planet just as who you are right now.
- Eating a healthy diet and following a healthy lifestyle.
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I’ve said it before and I will say it again.
Healing and loving is about embracing all of it: the mess, the magic, the joy, the imperfection, the beauty, and the pain. Healing is a matter of releasing what we have been told, so we can remember who we truly are. It’s the space and place where there’s no more hiding - only embracing. Healing is the return of the memory of wholeness! Pure LOVE
In conclusion of the spiritual chapters I would like to share some writing from Nila Conzen Holistic Psychologist.
We believe she has summarised it beautifully.
“You are UNIQUE, BEAUTIFUL and IMPERFECT in every moment. You deserve to be healthy, energetic and happy. You deserve to enjoy your family, friends and the Good things in life. You are worthy not because you do, think or feel anything but because you are!
Celebrating our “imperfect perfection” acknowledges our individuality. We hide our true selves when we choose to focus on the things that keep us small and the people who drag us down. I don’t believe in “bad” people. I only believe in HURT people. I believe that at the core of every human being is pure, unconditional goodness.
As you are reading this remember that you are not a hierarchy-of-things; you are an integrated, complex, beautiful, circular system designed to experience and love and participate.
You do not have to be ‘perfect’ to be whole. You are a whole person. Not an ‘I-could-have-been-near-perfect’ person had you taken different paths in your life.
And even if your life may not be exactly where you thought it would be, but this is still a whole life that is still worth being lived fully.
We cannot escape our failings or limitations, but we can become better stewards of our wholeness. We can begin by accepting everything about ourselves. This self-acceptance acknowledges our complete imperfect self and provides opportunities to build on our strengths. Our self-improvement begins with loving our idiosyncrasies to realise our true potential.
The only thing that defines us is what’s inside of our hearts!”